How Soon Is Too Soon to Sleep with Someone? – Dating Advice for Women
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Are you seeing someone you really like but having an internal battle of when it’s “appropriate” to have sex with them? You feel a really strong connection, but you don’t want to give it up too soon because you want him to respect you?
If there’s one thing that irks me most, it’d have to be people telling women when it’s “appropriate” for them to have sex. You know that advice that says:
+ Guys won’t respect you if you give it up right away.
+ If you’re looking for a real relationship, then play hard to get.
+ Giving it up right away shows the lack of self-respect you have for yourself
*CRINGE*
Can we not please?
As well intentioned this advice might be, it’s dangerous. It creates a fear-based belief that respect is dependent on someones ability to see your worth. You waiting to have sex or not has nothing to do with your self-worth. NOTHING.
You already ARE worthy of respect regardless of when you choose to get intimate with someone. With that said, there’s one variable that would make having sex with someone wrong no matter how long you wait, and that’s exactly what we discuss in today’s video.
I think people forget women are also sexual creatures and should feel empowered to make sexual decisions for themselves. Please refrain from shaming. In fact, take your shame and judgments you have of sexual women, crumple it up, and burn it because it serves no one.
The best thing for everyone is for us to actively rid ourselves of the taboos we have about sex (a taboo mostly placed on women) and retire the narrative that there should be a waiting period for having sex. [DISCLAIMER: This is advice is for consenting adults only of course]
Guess what!
If your choice is to wait to have sex. That’s amazing!
If your choice is to have sex right away. That’s amazing!
It is an empowered decision only YOU can make. NOT a choice based off what your sexual partner is going to think of you.
Your body is yours. No one else’s.
I’ve seen beautiful and sustainable relationships spark from sex on the first night, and I’ve seen beautiful couples who chose to wait.
You know why because the sustainability factor of your relationship doesn’t come from when you choose to have sex. It comes from… shhhhh…. don’t tell everyone….
CHOOSING THE RIGHT PARTNER!
The right person regardless is going to respect you no matter what you choose. But here’s where the real issue is that no one shines a light on. Our ability to trust ourselves. Do you even trust yourself to make the right decision? That’s where the real conflict is.
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October 21st, 2019 at 2:26 pm
You give such great advice. I feel like you get down to the truth of it
October 21st, 2019 at 2:41 pm
This guy took me on a date, things went far, I wanted to do it, everyone was like he is super nice, but then he disrepected me right after, I mean like right after, he said it would be best to just be friends, and then asked me if I had any STDs, cut him real quick he's my coworker, but damn, I've never been disrepected like that before, it really shook my confidence, if anyone can relate please share with me, because I'm real taken aback by it all, and honestly a little hurt
October 21st, 2019 at 3:10 pm
I had a fucking stroke reading that dumb ass title?
October 21st, 2019 at 3:22 pm
She is wrong ladies. Don't wait forever, but sex on the first date is not empowering. Feminism has lied to you. Woman have the responsibility of reproducing the next generation of humans. Be selective, be responsible. Don't sleep with just anyone.!!! You're worth it!
October 21st, 2019 at 3:40 pm
HA! jokes on you I'm a virgin
sits in corner
October 21st, 2019 at 4:14 pm
This completely ignores a critical aspect of it all. That is how people will perceive you. If any woman wants to hope around with sex partners willy nilly, it’s always been their prerogative. That said, men will look at them as easy and less desirable to marry. This is known by every person who has viewed or commented on this video. It’s like having a new car vs a used car. Used is nice, but everyone deep down wants a new one if they can get it. The used car typically comes with baggage, busted parts, and all sorts of unforeseen issues that a new car doesn’t. Women who sleep around are no different.
October 21st, 2019 at 4:24 pm
The best Advise I heard so far on all dating gurus here on YouTube?♥️
October 21st, 2019 at 4:33 pm
I say pump it and dump it then go fishing again
October 21st, 2019 at 5:16 pm
Me and my boyfriend felt such a sexual energy and tension between us right after we had been seeing each other just for a month. Then we decided that now on we are "officially dating" and then on we were intimate many times (without sex itself or blowjob etc). After a week or so we felt that we need more than just this physical intimacy and our smartest decision was to wait 6months until we had the sex itself. It really bond us together and we discovered a lot about each other and our personalities
October 21st, 2019 at 5:57 pm
Amazing advice.
October 21st, 2019 at 6:51 pm
Generally speaking, if you haven't slept with a man on the 3rd date, he will move on.
October 21st, 2019 at 7:45 pm
Dont have sex unless you see a future with someone. If you dont see one but wanna have sex for fun there is a chance they DO see a future and you will hurt their feelings and make them feel cheap and used. Also hopefully no one ever treats you like that either. Its horrible. Hope this helps.
-ex tinder slut
October 21st, 2019 at 8:19 pm
Just live your truth if you like to get it in on the first night do you .if your a good girl who waits do you as well but keep in mind when your sexually active always get tested don’t wanna go out like Willy lump lump ?
October 21st, 2019 at 9:13 pm
Your videos are toxic. And misleading. Just my two cents. Sorry.
October 21st, 2019 at 9:38 pm
Im aan and im nervous about having sex. It's kind of sexist to assume that only women need this advice
October 21st, 2019 at 9:44 pm
Female Opinion: Do you find that from your experience you normally can’t contain your feelings and get too emotionally attached after having sex? I’m gonna speak on my experience, but I really enjoy and love sex, I like having sex with whoever I want too when I feel like it and I don’t really derive emotional attachment/love from sex, whereas women get very emotionally attached after having it. Anyways I’m genuinely asking because I really enjoy getting laid, but the problem I have is women get all bent out of shape if I don’t want to be in a relationship with them and that hurts me. I’m not trying to be a scumbag and hurt anybody, but I’m not trying to be celibate either. I’d like to know the female psyche in regards to how you view sex? .
October 21st, 2019 at 10:32 pm
Whenever the woman is ready, she's the chooser, she's the captain of the ship, the man is the hull of this ship, any form of relationship progression should always be started by the woman, (first time sex, official relationships, engagements, marriages) that's all the woman's duties 1st! But the man should always do the pursuing only in the beginning, then the woman chases, if she wants him. Most likely if he's attracted to her he'll always go for it. Unless he's gay ??
October 21st, 2019 at 10:50 pm
I know this is a bit old, but in my experience the first 90 days of meeting someone new male or female is a test trial. Then after that you should spend another 3 to 6 months talking about marriage and how compatible you are together as a couple. You might be sexually attracted to this person, but don't get sexual until you know they're the right one. Avoid getting drunk or high on drugs together and don't live together until after you're married. My cousin's wife spent 2 years working on her health and wellness before they had a planned pregnancy. There is a right and wrong way to do it. My cousin and his wife are role models of how it should be done. Everything was planned and everything was worked for before getting sexual and having children. They're already home owners and most people their age are single parents or broke.
October 21st, 2019 at 11:13 pm
I've been with my boyfriend for a month now and I slept with him thrice, but we don't do sex yet.
October 21st, 2019 at 11:22 pm
Okay first of all nobody has to agree with me on this however but where I come from dating used to mean dating anyways the whole world is going backwards seems like what dating is it just means to have a commitment and also getting to know each other. Otherwise it means companion without sex being involved. However most people choose to do that and it messes a lot of people up seems because of the lust of the flesh what I'm trying to say is sex should never come before marriage that's where I come from. But however I cannot speak for anybody else. Everyone has there choice to make in their lives. But anyways that is what dating means not about based on sex. But like I said you don't have to agree with this but it is the truth that is just my opinion.