3 Tricks To Make First Dates Less Awkward
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First dates are primed to be awkward.
We’re going out with someone we’ve met for only 5 or 10 minutes usually, perhaps not at all, and so first dates have the potential to be extremely awkward if you don’t set yourself up in the right way.
Here are 3 quick tips to make the whole process smoother and less awkward…
1) Touch early and often
A mistake people often make is that as they don’t know someone well, and because they don’t want to seem too keen, they don’t get at all tactile.
The problem with this in the first part of a date is that the longer you leave it before introducing touch, the more awkward touch becomes.
For a guy, the most pain-staking, horrible scenario is the time when you’ve barely touched the woman you’re with throughout the entire date, and at the end you want to kiss her. This makes the move of only a few centimetres feel like a mountain to climb.
Touch allows for a smoother transition through each stage.
As a woman you have the power to set the tone for this by giving him a hug or a kiss on the cheek when you first see him. This isn’t desperate; it just conveys that you’re someone who’s warm.
2) Don’t sit opposite each other
Sitting opposite one another immediately creates awkwardness. Reason being, when there’s a silence, there’s nowhere to turn (but facing each other).
If you’re sitting adjacent to or next to someone, you can watch the world together.
Now, when there’s a silence, it’s not awkward, it’s just a silence while you’re both looking out to whatever’s in front of you. When you’re ready to restart the conversation, you can turn to your side and carry on.
3) Do something externally focused
I’m going to say this bluntly: The worse you are at conversation, the more external focus you need.
If you’re an amazing conversationalist, you can take someone to the corner of a quiet bar and talk all night, creating an amazing connection.
If you’re someone who’s a little nervous, and you know that it takes a while for you to warm up, you have to do something where there’s external activity. Examples could be a museum or a comedy show, or on a more subtle level it could be something as simple as taking a walk together.
Even if you were sitting on a busy park bench people-watching, this allows you to comment on things outside of yourselves, as opposed to having the sole focus on the two of you and the conversation you’re having.
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September 13th, 2019 at 1:00 pm
This is my first date in like two years… I’m really f*cking nervous right now
September 13th, 2019 at 1:11 pm
I got my 2nd date blind date in my entire life on Sunday ?? no idea how its going to go
September 13th, 2019 at 2:11 pm
Im planning a first date with a girl for tomorrow. I havent dated since highschool. I've been more on the fuckboy side like hookups. And even then 90% of the time I was drunk. So I'm nervous af. Doesnt help that shes cute af either. Wish me luck boys. I'm taking her to the movies. I know it sounds like a bad idea but she said she wanted to. Also I plan (if it isnt super awkward on the ride there and before the movie) to ask after the movie if she wants to get ice cream or a shake or something because I want to talk a little more.
September 13th, 2019 at 2:37 pm
wow! these are the ones that happened on my first date, works for me. that was really not awkward, and it turned out to be a very good, interesting date. ?
September 13th, 2019 at 3:15 pm
I sat directly in front of the person I just went on the first date with, and it was fine. We both enjoyed good conversation, and there was no awkward silence. Could have continued talking until now, hours later, but it was starting to get too dark outside.
September 13th, 2019 at 3:37 pm
No joke. I literally did this with a girl BEFORE she asked me out. We were at a park sitting on the swings and we talked for some 5 hours or so. When we wanted to face each other, we just stopped swinging and turned. Then she got cold so I wrapped her in the snuggie I had in my car and drove her home. She asked me out right as she was getting out of the car. We've been friends for a year almost and I've been secretly eyeing her. To know she feels the same way is wicked cool. BUT now I'm super nervous because I have to plan an actual date and I haven't dated since high school. I was thinking a movie or dinner but isn't that cliche? WHAT DO I DO?! IDEAS?!
September 13th, 2019 at 3:58 pm
It's so awkward when you don't like them and they sit next to you… they lean in closer and it's just uncomfortable as fuck.
September 13th, 2019 at 4:28 pm
I hate sitting side to side Bc I have a good side and a bad side
September 13th, 2019 at 4:41 pm
2019 – just ask her out go to your house and grab some drinks, popcorn and watch the girl fav Netflix serie/movie. Ask some questions about her life and stuff.
September 13th, 2019 at 4:42 pm
I tried to sit on the side of the girl I was taking on the date… she was like "what are you doing, don't sit next to me you weirdo" LOL
September 13th, 2019 at 5:36 pm
Im going tomorrow ?? good tips x
September 13th, 2019 at 6:08 pm
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September 13th, 2019 at 6:36 pm
this is helpful tho
September 13th, 2019 at 6:45 pm
i’m going to my first date in a couple hours…. i’m scared out of my brainnnnnn??
September 13th, 2019 at 6:47 pm
I don't mind a brief touch on the arm but I really don't want to be hugged or kissed on the first date upon greeting. A brief kiss on the cheek at the conclusion might be okay.
September 13th, 2019 at 7:44 pm
My friend went on a date where the girl insisted on sitting perpendicular to where he was looking and he said it felt worse than having someone sit oppositely
September 13th, 2019 at 8:02 pm
This man knows stuff.
September 13th, 2019 at 8:49 pm
Just pull your cock out if she sucks it that means she liked you if she dont it wasn't meant lol
September 13th, 2019 at 8:51 pm
darn, we already planned lunch hahaha, it will be hard to not sit opposite each other. But we are meeting at a square first where there are benches, I could suggest we sit there for a while first or take a walk first, or I can be a real weirdo and actually sit next to him in the restaurant… no bar there either just normal tables.
September 13th, 2019 at 9:47 pm
Umm my girlfriend Sis (future girlfriend) is really cool and I think she might be subtly liking me so this video really helped a lot and I hope I get a kiss during the first date. She is such a cool Discord gamer girl~